I’m sure at some point in your life you’ve heard the belabored saying “everything happens for a reason.”
Well, today I’m here to tell it to you again! However, I’m putting a slight spin on it. Today my saying is “every emotion happens for a reason.”
I’m currently going for dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). DBT consists of four modules, and one of these modules is called Emotion Regulation. The first homework assignment my therapist gave me for this module was a worksheet titled “Myths About Emotions.” Basically, there’s a list of 20 different myths. One of these is “emotions can just happen for no reason.” My task was to create a statement challenging these myths.
My challenge statement for this myth is “there is a reason for every emotion, even if I don’t know it right now.”
Even though I didn’t realize it at first, I tend to operate from this myth quite a bit. In fact, even this past week I was saying to myself “I’m sad and anxious for no reason and I hate it.” However, when I told my therapist that and we started breaking down different things that occurred throughout the week, I realized that there were plenty of things causing my emotions.
Karen Salmansohn said,
“The hardest thing about “everything happens for a reason” is waiting for that reason to show up.”
It’s sometimes frustrating in the moment when we can’t seem to figure out why is triggering a certain feeling, but don’t fret, there is always a reason for everything, and while you may not know it now, I promise you will soon, and finding out what’s triggering a feeling is the first step to working through the feeling!
Have an incredible weekend,